In LOVE with DISC
Love is the sweetest thing, especially if we understand DISC.
A leading on line dating agency uses software based in DISC to connect members looking to find love. Some of these sites have good results. The site is living up to its name, quoted as the agency that finds the most connections that lead ultimately to marriage.
If you have ever taken the time to complete a profile on one of these sites you will start to recognise elements of DISC incorporated in the questions. These are then compared to others on the site that have the most in common with you, so those who are the most alike, who are likely to be the most in harmony with you. I am a big supporter of creating harmony in the world. I am concerned that there are now many couples who have met each other this way who are aligned, similar and in love.If marriage leads to children it will be fascinating to see what the population will look like in another 10 years.
An old saying is that “opposites attract”. In love this was always considered to be a trend on the summarised theory that as humans we are seeking out a life partner who can “complete” us. So if people who are the same start creating families will this result in hybrid children with super powers, exaggerated behaviours and less blend? Wait and see.
In the meantime, let’s think about the person we love. If you don’t have a life partner, pick a friend you love. Consider if they are fast or measured in their pace. Consider if they are more task orientated or people orientated. Let’s say a little about each outcome so that you can start to consider what impact this could have on your relationship.
If they are fast paced and task orientated – D (dominance in the DISC model) or as Asentiv the Referral Consultants call them – Go Getters. They like results, they are driven, lose the detail, they like to get straight to the point.
If they are fast paced and people orientated – I (Ifluencer in the DISC model) or as Asentiv call them – Promoters. They like people, positivity, having fun, lose the data, they like to feel and experience a situation, not look through the data and evidence.
If they are measured in pace and people orientated – S (Steadiness in the DISC model) or as Asentiv call them – Nurturers. They want to take time to understand people or a situation and to make sure that they are in the best position to help and support others , lose the bullish approach and take time to listen.
If they are measured in pace and task orientated – C (Conscientious in the DISC model) or as Asentiv call them – Examiners. They want to get the facts, look at the detail, create a strategy first before they act. Lose the ra-ra-ra. Bring solid evidence and facts to their table.
In love we tend to attract opposites, in work we tend to mix with our own behavioural styles or at least our own pace or orientation.